Meet the author

Born to Filipino and Indian parents in Manila, the Philippines, Deepa Paul currently resides in Amsterdam.

She is the author of the memoir ASK ME HOW IT WORKS: LOVE IN AN OPEN MARRIAGE, published by Viking Books UK in 2025,

Her memoir has been translated into Dutch (Je mag me alles vragen, Uitgeverij Nieuw Amsterdam) and German (Wie es mir gefaellt, hanserblau), and soon into Albanian.

Gillian Anderson has described it as ‘stunningly vulnerable and poetic…’ saying, ‘if this doesn’t change your perspective on relationships, nothing will.’

Deepa and her book have been featured on ITV’s This Morning, in The Times of London, the Daily Mail, the Irish Independent, the Sydney Morning Herald, Stylist, Vogue Australia, Het Parool, on RTE Radio 1, NPO Radio 1, and more.

She has written for Seventeen Magazine Philippines, The Philippine Star, Philippine Daily Inquirer, and Singapore Women’s Weekly, while her personal essays have been published in RED Magazine, Cheex, Gal-Dem, the Sky Island Journal, Expanded Field and Rappler. 

Previously, Deepa was a copywriter for GMA-7, the Philippines’ largest TV network, and for global entertainment brands such as NBC Universal, The Disney Channel, HBO and Netflix.

She lives in Amsterdam with her husband, daughter, and cranky black cat.

Author photo by Samira Kafala (2025)